CASE STUDY: SYNASTRY IN ACTION
“Rory and Alice were divorced
5 years ago. However, because of their children, they still have ongoing contact
with each other that is not very amicable. Alice complains that Rory is
irresponsible, unreliable, uncaring and constantly undermines her with the
children. Rory says Alice is inflexible and doesn’t allow him to be a free
spirit or realise he has other things that are more important than keeping
schedules. Alice has come to you to help her understand the relationship
dynamics between the two of them better, as their constant bickering is
affecting the children. Using the technique of chart comparison (synastry)
explain their relationship dynamics to Alice and suggest ways of improving the
relationship for the sake of the children.”
Alice:
December 2,
1958
9:45 PM AEST
Pennant Hills, NSW, Australia
33S44 151E04
Rory:
October 24,
1950
6:10 PM AEST
Canterbury, NSW, Australia
33S55 151E07
“…for I tell you father,
I
am as peremptory as she is proud-minded;
and where two raging fires meet
together
They do consume the thing that feeds their fury:
Though little
fire grows great with little wind,
Yet extreme gusts will blow out fire and
all:
So I to her and so she yields to me;
For I am rough and woo not like
a babe.”
-William Shakespeare (1)
Mary Alice
has come seeking advice on her relationship with her ex-husband. They have been
five years divorced, and presumably have no interest in rekindling any romance
with each other. They retain contact because of their children. Alice makes no
mention of their age nor whether they live with her or their father, Rory. Going
on the basis that the children are still in school and live with their mother,
Alice’s request brings the 5th House of children into the matter.
However, the focus of Alice and Rory’s relationship problems is best described by the
traditional means of synastry: understanding each native’s capacity for
relationships, and comparing the two charts for both troublesome and harmonious
interaspects as a way of illuminating the basic patterns at work. From this can
come awareness and thus, possible solutions.
Alice
has ostensibly come about the children. Their happiness is apparently being
affected by her acrimonious relationship with her ex-husband Rory. Alice does
not make clear how the children are being affected, nor how old they are
although this might have some bearing on the situation. If the children are in
their teens, are they contributing to the tension between the couple? Are they
playing Mom off Dad and vice versa?
Such are the complex dynamics involved, that
the astrologer must be very careful when approaching the matter from the
outside. No assumptions can be made! Each person involved has his or her own
perspective. The fact that Alice has come for a reading on her own to discuss a
matter that includes her partner does concern me. I would prefer Rory to be in
attendance as well. The implication here is that Alice might be looking for an
“inside edge” or validation of her perspective on their joint behaviour.
What this means for the astrologer
is extra vigilance in maintaining freedom from bias. Effective evaluation requires not
only fairness but also a balance of perspective, with Rory’s “voice” receiving
equal airtime. Synastry is not just about sign compatibility. And
although the reading will be done from the perspective of a relationship that
has run its course romantically, it is helpful to build the picture bit by bit,
starting at the beginning.
One natal chart
alone contains many threads of potential personal expression. Brought together
with another, the threads can become a jumble of (sometimes contradictory)
potentialities. Robert Hand wryly observes that when doing synastry the
astrologer is faced with the enormous task of sorting out who is doing what to
whom and how.(2)
And so with Alice
and Rory’s natal charts in front of me, the best way to begin is to consider
each natal chart separately. It is best that this is done before making any
attempt at all to explain their inter-dynamics.
Each chart is
assessed as to the capability for relationships. Before we even begin to ask,
“Where is the love?” we might instead pare it back to “the skeleton of the
character:” the Sun, Moon, and Ascendant.(3)
Where are the needs, the potential insecurities? (Moon) In what
direction is the client headed in order to fulfil their core individualism? (Sun) How
does the native view the world and orientate himself toward it? (Ascendant) The
Sun is important to note, as the urge to continue our personal journey (as our
Sun describes it) does not end with one’s pairing with another.
A Sun will make
its push forward regardless of obstacles. The compatibility between Sun signs really
begins with the person’s need to individuate and how easy-going or hard-nosed
they will be in this quest.
The Moon is the archetypal inner child in the chart.
Its sign and aspects reflect the emotional nature in all its moods. The Moon
also shows the urge to mother, in what realm and in what way. Regardless of
whether a person thinks they have shrugged off this “weak” part of themselves at
adulthood, the Moon is ever a player between partners.
The Ascendant is our
basic filter through which we understand our world, and handily it is the most
obvious indication to others as to our primary motivation. But if our Ascendant
expresses energies that are not backed up by the rest of the chart---a watery
sign as the only water in the chart, for example---then we might find ourselves
constantly misunderstood. Perhaps we might even be accused of deliberately
misrepresenting ourselves.
Planets on or near an angle will show
themselves strongly as part of our personality, as will those planets that are
in their rulership or exaltation. Cadent planets, especially those “lost” in the
12th House, unaspected, in partile conjunction to other planets, intercepted, in
detriment or fall, part of an aspect pattern---these all colour the condition,
and so the pure expression of the planet’s archetypal energies. These are all
influences that can lie behind the “Primal Triad” (4) and are potential “shadows” for us to deal with
as the relationship unfolds. Time reveals truth; in time the “details” of
oneself emerge for the Other. This brings us to the 7th House of marriage, where
the “sphere where we learn greater co-operation with others,” (5) is brought into the picture.
In
synastry, the 7th House cusp represents the balance to our Ascendant. As befits
the mystic reasoning behind astrology, “the others” we are drawn to and tend to
attract, carry an intrinsic benefit to us: as yin is to yang, male to female,
yes to no---those who resonate with our Descendant offer us the perfectly
opposing complement to our basic view of all life. (6) It is as if they draw from us the very things
that we cannot see within ourselves.
This is not like a 12th House blindness,
where our parts residing there are like a trickster’s post-it note stuck on our
backs. What we find so hard to accept about the 7th House (and what it says
about us) is in our sensation of being totally separate from everyone else. When
I look at you, I see someone who is not me. Thus this has been called the House
of the “not-self” (7) and in living through the
pleasure and pain others can bring, we learn through understanding others how
best to relate ourselves.
Since 7th House planets represent qualities we lack or
don’t acknowledge in ourselves, the partner compensates, and so we feel
“completed” by their proximity in our lives. It follows that the opposition
aspect itself is a numerical manifestation of “me here relating to you there.”
Ronald Davison states, “A rising planet denotes a quality that we wish to
demonstrate to the world that we possess. A setting planet represents a quality
that we are asking the world to supply us with.” (8) Accordingly, the “open enemies” of the 7th House
damage us, when they are able to capitalize on our obvious vulnerabilities.
(9)
Venus
signifies romance, with challenging aspects reflecting difficulty communicating
love and one’s sense of self-value. By extension this would affect one’s
admiration for the Other, as we can only love another as we love ourselves. Mars
in relationships shows how one desires, how sexuality is expressed, and what one
is looking for in a sexual relationship.
The Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars are the
female/male archetypes (or anima/animus) and as such how well they blend
together in the chart, says a lot about how comfortable the native will be once
challenged by a relationship of any significant length. The elements convey the
style with which a person relates himself or herself. Of note in the natal chart
is the lack of any particular element, or modality. What is lacking is
frequently sought in the Other.
With
her Sun accidentally dignified in the 5th House, Alice is much concerned with
having a significant purpose in her life. This being the House of children and
pleasurable activities, (10) Alice’s central identity is
easily associated with her children. She is able to have fun and being playful
is part of the joy of being alive. Her Sun shows that she wants a man who is
straightforward, values ideals and freedom, is broad-minded with a sense of
justice.
Its conjunction to Venus adds an enthusiastic love nature to the mix.
The trine from Sun to Uranus describes a freethinker with little respect for
authority figures. In the square from Pluto to the Sun there is a
foreshadowing…Alice is bound to experience power-struggles with men.
Her Moon
describes how she will give and receive, and ultimately nurture. With a 1st
House Leo Moon, Alice wants attention, she wants to be the leader, loves fun,
and encourages creation. She will give warmly and generously. And she will want
the same kind of attention in return! Her children will be very special to her.
Her Moon is intercepted, to some degree negating the way her Moon can use Leo
(11) although as an adult she may now have
broken from its constraints. Because the Moon is part of a strong aspect
pattern, the lunar part of her character is significant. Including Mars,
Jupiter, Chiron as well as her Moon, together they make a fixed and angular
Grand square.
With the exception of unaspected Neptune, all other planets in her
chart are brought into this pattern. Standing alone, the fixed Grand square, or
cross, provides a rock-solid foundation for Alice.
Although linked
through aggravating squares and oppositions, the planets involved hold together
strongly and make it difficult for anyone to get the better of her. On the one
hand it gives Alice a tremendous willpower, on the other she can use its
energies in stubbornness and ruthless determination. Mars is retrograde within
this pattern, and so its drive may be turned to the inner self (12) ---squared to the
Moon, she may find a man’s anger familiar, even to be expected.
Her Ascendant in Cancer projects
empathy and a general air of sympathetic sensitivity when touched. She can
appear to be moody, and as an opposition to the Capricorn Descendant she is
looking for someone to contain her fears. The 7th House “over there” describes
an Other who is emotionally controlled, worldly, and as interested in material
security as is her 10th House Mars in Taurus. This is an ambitious Mars, and a
Capricorn-like mate suits her materialistic aims right down to the ground,
indicated by angle with the Mars trine to the Descendant.
Venus on
the other hand, in the 5th in Sagittarius and trining Moon/Uranus, wants nothing
better than the excitement of the chase---“The game is afoot!” In love Alice
needs the stimulation this provides, but her personal moral standards play a
large part in her attraction to the Other.
If he puts a foot wrong in terms of
her own ethics, she would find her desire for him on the wane. Because the 5th
House is not only love affairs but also children, the same ethic applies to them
as well---anyone who interferes with her children’s upbringing can incur her
wrath (Venus ruling Mars, Mars square Moon and opposing Jupiter in the 4th House
of family, Jupiter ruling Venus). And here is part of the dynamics behind
Alice’s complaint of Rory undermining her with the
children.
Of interest is the complete planetary lack
of the element Air in Alice’s chart. In her efforts to communicate, Alice may
sense she is missing something that could greatly help her in this respect. Her
retrograde Mercury conjunct Saturn does also support the idea that communicating
in the way she wants can be a hard business. Unfortunately the implication of
miscommunication is misunderstanding of oneself by others. A major attraction
for Alice is a relationship with someone who does possess well-tenanted Air
signs, and thereby can supply clarity to her thoughts. And as an extra statement
underlining this need, Alice’s 7th House contains the whole sign of Aquarius,
Chiron accenting attention to that area---and with the Mercury Rx the cosmic
“rule of three” is in evidence.
Rory’s relationship needs are in the
same planets, altering only the meaning as it relates to the gender implied by
the planet and its sign. His Scorpio Sun represents a fixed and secretive core.
Power-oriented and resourceful, his inner self holds strongly to his own
desires. Placed in the 7th House, relationships take on paramount importance to
him. In fact, he cannot truly feel whole without some significant Other. The
Scorpio nature of his Sun desires exclusive intimacy and control in
relationship; he will resist any attempt made to subjugate him, and is capable
of deep resentment when crossed.
His Moon shows his image of Mother, and
Rory’s Moon is strongly wired into his chart as part of a Grand trine, with a
Kite formed by Neptune opposing the Moon. His inner Mother contains images of a
beautiful, unavailable (Neptune opposing, Moon in 12th House) warrior maiden who
isn’t afraid to use her great power. In Aries his Moon gives and receives
spontaneously, immediately, without thought for the consequences. Uranus in
Cancer squares his Moon to the 12th House of the unconscious. His Mother figure
contains a free and adventurous spirit who thinks for herself, and perhaps
thinks (in the main) only for herself.